Month: June 2015

That looks like a rabbit hole. I should be careful where I wal

So about ten days ago I get The Call. Mom. Paramedics. Ambulance. Hospital. I was in San Diego waking up for my final day at Cisco Live. Suddenly I’m notifying the team I need to get on the road, check out, find food, find the freeway, and boogie my butt an hour north. Where things get real. For the last few months, I’ve expected this. Mom’s health has been waning and in the last year or so the speed of that change has increased. At Christmas it was clear that was continuing and  afterward I told Laurie I felt that was likely our last Christmas together. As it turned out, I was right. Understanding that allowed me to mentally plan and prepare for this somewhat, and  I quietly adjusted some of my plans and goals for the year so that if or when it happened, I could minimize the chaos and disruptions to those around me. If you’ve had to deal with elderly family members, you understand the drill. If you haven’t had to, yet, I think all I can say is that even if you think you know what you’re getting yourself into, you really don’t. The challenges — and joys — are astounding. For a few years now, I’ve always known where my suitcase is stored. Waking up every morning wondering in the back of your head “if...

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Mom, Rest in Peace

My mom passed away tonight about 9PM, age not-quite-92, ending a long fight against cancer. A breast cancer survivor almost a decade ago, the cancer had returned into the bones and elsewhere, and when I got the phone call Thursday, I had a feeling it was probably That Call. After consulting with the doctors we were arranging to bring her home in hospice when she declined rapidly and ended up passing this evening. I’m incredibly sad to have lost her, she was a good friend as well as my mother, and my moral compass through the years. I am, however, quite happy to know her fight with the pain is over and that the suffering is done. She was alert and living alone and independent to the end, with some assistance and help. Mom, I will truly miss you, but I’m happy that you were able to live the life you wanted. Thank you for everything. I’m here in Orange County for now as I’m now dealing with the estate, and I hope to get home as soon as I understand the plan for all that implies, but I do think I’ll be commuting between here and home for the next few months. Right now, it’s about making sure people know and getting the legal things going. Whee. I admit this isn’t a huge surprise, I’ve been expecting That...

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Where’s Chuq?

This last week I’ve been at Cisco Live in San Diego doing whatever it is I do for a living in our DevNet Zone. By all accounts and feedback the week was a whopping success and thanks to all of you that tracked me down to say high at the show and thanks and apologies to those that tried but didn’t find me. Unfortunately Thursday I got a call to tell me that mom had taken ill and was being taken to the emergency room, and I had to leave the show early and make a mad dash north. I’ve spent the last day and a half being with mom, talking with doctors and the like here in home base Orange County. I will be here for the next few days as well, but I hope to be able to start getting back into the swing of things at work and here on the blogs. things are still a bit fluid. My strong congratulations to the team (and to everyone involved in Cisco Live), and man, was it nice to finally pick up a camera again, even if it was doing event work and not landscapes. I loved what I saw of San Diego, which admittedly was fairly limited by the walk through the Gaslamp District from the hotel (the Marriott Gaslamp which was quite nice) and the convention...

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